Post Play Aches and Pains

Posted on 11th September 2011 in Kinky Life, Odds N' Ends

We had a fairly intense session yesterday afternoon. Impact play, sensation play, Hitachi, bondage, mind fuck. Today my muscles are sore and achy. Didn’t realize I’d tightened up so much. Though I think most of the soreness is from fighting the wrist and ankle restraints while Sir was tickling me and using the Hitachi on me.

Can’t wait till we do it again! :)

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Playing With Electricity

Posted on 8th September 2011 in Fetish, Kinky Life, Sex Toys, Shopping

Intrigued by this: KinkLab Neon Wand, Anybody used one? It seems to be pretty comparable to the Violet Wand. My birthday’s in 8 days-think I know what I’ll be getting! (insert big cheesy grin)

Update: I just ordered it! WooHoo! Review to follow in a couple of weeks.

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Hitachi Magic Wand: A Review

Posted on 26th April 2011 in Kinky Life, Reviews, Sex Toys

April 6, 2011: the day that changed my sex life forever. For a while Sir talked about buying a vibrator to use on me. After researching, he decided on the Hitachi Magic Wand and ordered it from Eden Fantasys. It arrived at our house on April 6.

Now I had never used a vibrator before; never wanted to. After a long play session on that fateful day, Sir ended the session by restraining me and using the Hitachi on me. Oh. My. God. I have never had such a long and intense orgasm. Needless to say, Sir was happy with his new toy.

Pros to the Hitachi are the incredible orgasms, no batteries, and that you can actually use it on other body parts as a massager. :)

Cons include the weight, though not a problem for me since Sir uses it on me-I don’t have to hold it. Another minor issue to keep in mind is the size. It’s a pretty bulky toy.

The vibration is intense even on low. I haven’t been able to tolerate the high setting yet.

It’s not very noisy or at least not as noisy as I’d expected. Though as I mentioned, I have no previous vibrator experience so I have nothing to compare it to.

If you want an intense orgasm, invest in Hitachi Magic Wand.

Hmmmm…

Posted on 26th April 2011 in Kinky Life

So for a while I’ve been thinking about posting a picture on HNT. But I’m not too sure about taking, let alone posting, semi-nude pictures. Thoughts?

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Erotic Reading Challenge

Posted on 20th April 2011 in Erotica, Kinky Life, Odds N' Ends

Love reading erotic stories? Love reading author interviews and book reviews? Surf on over to The Forbidden Bookshelf to join the 2011 reading challenge, read an interview or book review.

Kinky Identity

Posted on 3rd April 2011 in Kinky Life, Submission

In her list of submissive journal prompts, lunaKM asks whether I identify as a slave, a submissive, or something else and what my definition of that identity is. That’s a great question and one I have not fully answered yet. The simplest response is that I’m evolving.

As a bit of background, my husband and I only started practicing kink about a year ago. I had kinky thoughts and desires most of my adult life, but had not “come out” to anyone. After twelve years of marriage, I thought it was time. So I asked him what he thought about spanking me. He did. We both got amazingly aroused. And so on and so forth.

At first I thought we’d switch. I never thought of myself as a bottom or a submissive. In my day to day public life I’m assertive and actually have to have control of many situations. But, oh how wrong I was.

I’ve learned over the past year that I’m at least a ¬†sexual submissive to my husband. I’ve also learned that practicing kink takes more trust than anything else I’ve ever done. I’ve learned that my easy going, happy-go-lucky, mild mannered husband is quite the Dom in the bedroom, and very slightly sadistic. Mmmm…shiver!

What really surprises me is that I’m slowly coming to understand that I like being submissive more than just in the bedroom. I’m not anywhere close to ready for 24/7, but as I explained to him yesterday while we were shopping, sometimes I just don’t want to think-don’t want to make decisions. I want him to do it. Not because I can’t, but because I love that feeling of being cared for, of being protected. I love that look on his face when he’s proud of me or when he’s showing me off. I love the power that he gives off when he’s in Alpha Male mode.

So, what is my kinky identity today? I would say I’m sexually submissive to my husband, with overall sub tendencies. My definition of that identity is that I love to please him, love to see his eyes light up when he’s happy, love for him to take me and make me unmistakably his.

How do you define your kinky self and your relationship dynamic? Have you evolved since the beginning? Have you surprised yourself along the way?

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